by: Stephanie Gonzalez Do you remember playing the game follow-the-leader as a child? In our youth, it was fun to play games. This game was a simple physical game of copycat. One person is designated to be “the leader” and the remaining dozen or so kids are designated to be “the follower.” We are all grown up now. And, as adults, follow-the-leader has not been removed from our life. Rather, it is still with us, as the “game of life.” What is the difference between then versus now? As an adult, we get to choose what role we want to play. Every day we get to ask ourselves the question: “Am I a follower, or a leader, today?” But, do you…do you really have a choice? I am going to boldly declare that you do not have a choice. You are a leader (in everything you do). It is a fallacy to think you have an option. I suggest that we change the question we ask ourselves to: “What kind of leader am I?” Our world keeps spinning – and, by the way, at a super fast pace – every day. Every role you play at work or at home – parent, child, sibling, teacher, friend, colleague, team lead, team member, or business owner – should only experience the profound leader (not the follower) that is within you. Anything less would be a gigantic concession for you and anyone who comes in contact with you. Being a great leader means you: • Are powered by your purpose • Engage your most courageous voice • Understand the difference between intuition and instinct • Understand that action begets analysis, analysis does not beget action • Take calculated risks with your “gut reaction” • Lead yourself, so you can best lead others • Possess a plan for personal development • Understand the difference between time management and attention management • Activate the concept that 1+1 = 11 • Graciously give compliments so the occasional criticism tastes sweet • Understand the impact of your words • Ask others to do, what you too would be willing to do • Know that influence comes with every decision, movement, and action (or inaction) • Become part of the solution, not the problem • Can easily discern what is your story (or not your story) to tell • Embrace confidence, not cockiness • Give credit to others' ideas • Define your non-negotiables When the topic of leadership comes up it’s only natural to synonymously think about management. Let’s not confuse management and leadership. Both are equally important, and at the same time are worlds apart. Although management and leadership appear to be Irish twins – and both are necessary for a fruitful outcome – it is the leader within you that will shatter a glass ceiling. The difference between great managers and great leaders is slight. Great managers focus on productivity, efficiency, and effectiveness. Great leaders focus on purpose, intention, and navigation. It is a small but distinct difference – time management versus attention management. Successful businesses (home and work) are run by managing at the front and leading from the back. Remember, uncovering the graceful warrior leader inside you does not happen overnight. Igniting the characteristics and qualities above unfolds with awareness and intention. It is – as you are – like a diamond, carefully chiseled over time.